Is tech killing your relationship?

by Cat Calhoun
San Miguel de Allende, Gto. México

Is this about Mexico? No! Yes. No. Well, yes, kinda. 

Dia de Los Muertos is a celebration of our connection to others that reaches beyond our three-dimensional life. Part of this year’s celebration in San Miguel de Allende was an amazing performance of Mozart’s Requiem at the beautiful Parrochia church. It was a beautiful, moving performance in a standing-room-only packed church. . . filled with people holding up their cell phones like they were at a Pitbull concert. 

Anyone who knows me IRL is well aware that I am a self-confessed technogeek. I’ve logged, blogged, and vlogged my life since Al Gore invented the internet. But at this concert it fully struck me that I have spent a lot of my life doing this – holding up my phone or my camera or my iPad to capture something for others that I would be better served simply experiencing for myself. 

MexicoNoFilters.com - cell phones at a performance

This may or may not be true for you, but I have begun to realize that for me tech has become an addiction, an expression of my inner need to have approval from my peers, and a distraction from what is really going on around me. As an emigrant to Mexico from the US, I realize it is also a way to sink back into the comfort of the culture I was born into via Netflix, Facebook, Instagram and a host of other easy addictions. All of these impact my ability to nourish meaningful relationships with my partner, my friends, and my world.  

Is technology impacting your ability to interact with your world and your family? Check out this article from the Gottman Institute out. 

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